I Am "Superman"

Every man has these two options, to be either a "real man" or a "superman". The permanence of both of these men is optional, one guy can choose to stick with one option for good whilst the other can choose to be a real man today and a superman tomorrow. He can be a real man when he's home with his wife and kids, and be a superman when he's out with his friends.

A real man chooses to make the right choices, makes sacrifices for his family and puts their interests before his own. On the other hand, in this intstance of course, superman is an imaginary character that every guy has in his head to make him feel extraordinarily competent and superior.

A real man does so many things that this superman character could never do, but he's not appreciated daily for the significant roles that he plays in the family, unless it is a holiday dedicated to men (which are very few) or his birthday. This is because everyone that this man serves sees his efforts as merely his responsibilities, so there is not a need to award a man for doing what he is supposed to do.

Superman is out for happiness and self-actualization. When ladies look at guys in their supermans' modes they just think that guys are complete idiots, but this idiotic behavior is because superman wants to live out of the ordinary, take on impossible challenges and achieve, be irresistible and turn everything that he touches into gold. This guy does not want to take on ordinary tasks like changing the light bulb, fixing the garden, painting the house or any other duty that any other ordinary guy can do. He wants to do the impossible, because as stupid as it may sound every guy thinks that he is the only superman in this world.

A real man does his best to make his woman happy, but subconsciously he believes that it takes a superman to make a woman happy. Every man is scared of losing his woman, and he believes the day he looses her it will be a superman. So now the funny thing is, without him even noticing, this fear of his contradicts that he believes he is the only superman in the world.

This whole superman fantasy is built upon an insecurity that he thinks he's not completely capable of taking care of his woman. It is every guy's dream to be their woman's first choice. If your partner had an option to choose from all the men in the world, do you honestly think that she would choose you? And another reason superman exists is because almost every guy replies with an negative answer to this question. Be realistic, she wouldn't have a reason to choose you over all of these admirable characters (that you probably admire too) in the world that have "supemans" bigger and stronger than yours.

It is then a woman's duty to make her man to feel secure with himself, to make feel like a superman.

Good girls bring out the best in real men, but bad girls usually bring out the superman in a real man, and that is why in most cases guys cheat with woman who are completely incompetent as compared to their wives.

To keep your man you need to be a good girl (that he fell for), but be able to play dirty so that moments of intimacy (amongst other thing) can feel like extraordinary challenges for him that he will have to use his extraordinary capabilities to overcome.

And as my words of closure, to all the ladies who are with humble and responsible men, do not be fooled into thinking that he does not have this superman delusion in his head. He might choose to ignore it but does not mean that every time when he is by himself there is no voice in his head saying: "I am Superman.

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Nobody Really Knows

If you can study and perfect the world as well as everything in it, discover what the gods have hidden and reach levels that no other human being has ever reached before, what would be your justification for your actions? What satisfaction would it bring you? And lastly, how would that make you different from the rest of us?

It is almost impossible to find every answer to every question that we might have about the world and everything in it. What is life? What is love? What are we living for? And where do we go when we die? You can travel the entire world trying to find answers to these questions and I can assure you that you would never find accurate answers but just countless theories made up by other curious creatures (as yourself) that couldn't deal with the reality that they couldn't find answers so they made them up.

Take a second and think about this: if you were to be provided with all of the answers, what would you do with them? How would they enreach your life? Why do you want to be different from the rest of us? Is there anything wrong if we are all just equal people?

Some people waste their entire lives trying to be better than other people. There are a very few people, if any, that live life at their own pace and enjoy their highs because they are highs, and not because they are higher than those of another person. Always bear this in mind: if your happiness is dependent on the sadness of another person, their happiness will also have a very huge impact on your sadness.

Do not make the mistake of studying the world for the purpose of being better than other people because you might neglect to live your life for the purpose of enjoying it, and that is the most important thing to do while we are still under the sky.

In all that you do you need to bear this in mind: nobody is really better than the other person because nobody really knows more than the rest of the world. Life in its nature is a journey of discovery. What really makes the expidition worth it is discovering things as we grow older, taking on challenges as they come and learning our lessons as life teaches.

Nobody really knows when is the world going to end (if it is going to end in the first place) or where we go when we die. We spend most of our time worrying about issues that are not in our present life and neglect those that should be our main concern: like falling in love, spendin our time with our loved ones and empowering those that really need us to.

There is nothing wrong with not knowing as long as we do know that we do not know. What should be important to us is to show appreciation for the lives we have been given by living them, and appreciating the love we recieve by giving it back.

Tomorrow always gives birth to another tommorrow, so let us live today since it is here and always remember that nobody really knows where tommorrow may lead us to, but we all know that yerstaday has led us to today.

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